Why Nofap After A Breakup Is Critical To Your Recovery

Brothers, I’ve got a public service announcement for you today.

Put away the lotion and tell Mia Khalifa to go back to writing shitty sports commentary.

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If you’ve fapped more than twice this week, do me a favor and splash some cold water in your face and look in the mirror. The guy you see looking back at you, what do you think about him?

Do you like him? Is he confident in himself? When was the last time he got laid?

If the answers are no, no, and “too long ago” then it’s time for a reality check. You are capable of so much more, and fapping too often is holding you back.

Less than twice a week? Okay, you’re probably fine, as long as you’re only using it for emergency situations like I talk about in my mega-guide to the no contact rule. If you’re not in an emergency situation, you SHOULD NOT BE FAPPING FOR ANY REASON.

But I know you fuckers are choking the chicken even in non-emergency situations. I know, because I’ve lived it. I used to be an addict.

Here’s the thing: fapping too much is going to torpedo your confidence faster than Usain Bolt runs the 100m.

Considering Usain Bolt can run the 100m in 9.58 seconds, we’re all fucked.

I don’t think we need to talk about how PMO (Porn, masturbation, orgasm) destroys relationships. What we do need to talk about is how NoFap will:

  • Keep you from getting addicted to the fantasy of your ex girlfriend
  • Provide extreme motivation to approach new women who can help you get over your breakup
  • Give you the confidence you need to get your day to day life back on track

What is NoFap?

It’s exactly what it sounds like. You stop watching porn, and you stop masturbating completely. There are a couple of different variations including:

  • Monk Mode/Hard Mode – Completely abstain from any sexual contact for a period of time, often 90-180 days minimum. For me, this was next to impossible. I love women too much to go monk mode, and I also don’t think it’s healthy to abstain from sex for that long. Forced monk mode and inceldom often go hand in hand.
  • Normal Mode – Completely stop whacking it to porn, but achieving orgasm through a partner is not only OK, but recommended. This is what we’ll be talking about today.
  • No Porn – Completely cut out porn and fantasy and masturbate from sensation only. This can be a good option for those looking to practice achieving multiple orgasms, which is great but not related to the topic of this article.

Nofap helps break the cycle of dependency to porn and orgasm, which I know a ton of men suffer from. Breaking this addiction unlocks what the no-fap community calls “superpowers” which range from massive confidence to improved performance in the bedroom.

The science behind cutting back on porn is shocking. If you have a few minutes, I highly suggest taking a look at your brain on porn. It’s truly an eye-opening experience if you’ve used porn all your life.

Personally, I struggled with a chronic addiction to masturbation from ages 11-22. I was getting laid, but I was also burning the candle at both ends with copious amounts of porn. I’m not sure how a teenage Jack managed to bust up to 3 nuts a day for several years, but hey, that’s the power of youth for you.

Why you need to use NoFap after a breakup

If I told you that the quickest way to get over your ex-girlfriend was to go out and get someone better, would you believe me?

I’m guessing most of you would. It’s pretty standard advice. But how many of you have the motivation to go and do that?

I’m sure that’s most of you again.

I’m not going to tell you that nofap is suddenly going to give you a magnetic pull on women. Hell, it’ll probably make your women skills worse because you’ll be so fucking horny.

But what it will do is motivate the fuck out of you to go out there and find new women. And a funny thing happens when you’re extremely motivated. You tend to get results, even if you don’t think you’re capable of it. Combine extreme motivation and my online dating manual, and you’ll be able to meet and have sex with women you might never have had otherwise.

The added benefit, is nofap helps make your rod as sensitive as it was when you were 12 and getting your first boner. Blowjobs will feel amazing, and sex completely changes.

Unfortunately, that does mean you get boners like a 12 year old, but you gotta take the good with the bad.

I still remember exactly how it felt when I stuck it in after my first 90 days in monk mode. Holy shit.

I went from down in the dumps to on top of the world.

Combine your new super dick with hot women all over you, and suddenly your self-confidence goes up. I don’t know about you, but the first few breakups I went through demolished my self-confidence.

As you build your self-confidence, you start thinking about your ex-girlfriend less and less. The less you think about her, the better you feel, and the easier it becomes to move on with your life.

It’s a positive feedback loop that just requires you to say no to Mia Khalifa and her surgically enhanced titties. If Baker Mayfield can do it, so can you.

Nofap helps you ditch the fantasy of your ex-girlfriend

Fantasizing about your ex-girlfriend is exactly what you don’t want to be doing after a breakup. You also definitely don’t want to be fapping to any pictures or videos you still have of her.

It gets you into a dangerous cycle where you’ll start to think irrational thoughts like:

  • She’s the only one for me!
  • I’ll never find anyone hotter!
  • I really want to have sex with her again.

It’s when you start thinking like this that you’ll be more tempted to reach out to her and upset the progress you’ve made so far.

Nofap eliminates the problem before it starts. If you’re not fapping to her, it’s easier to control the fantasies and keep yourself from going down the rabbit hole.

Plus, nofap also helps you appreciate how beautiful other women are. It’s the most unheralded benefit in my opinion, but when you’re free of porn and masturbation for awhile, you start to notice how many beautiful women are around you.

And guess who’s going to be single and ready to mingle with these beautiful ladies?

Yeah, things are about to get really fun for you.

The Emergency Fap

There is one exception when you can fap after a breakup: and that’s if you’re in danger of breaking no contact. Every so often, you’ll get an overwhelming urge to reach out to her that you just can’t overcome.

Generally, the right thing to do is to dial up one of your starters/reserves and get to banging. However, if you just split from your ex-girlfriend you might not have your roster built out yet. In this case, if you absolutely cannot do anything else to stop yourself from reaching out, it’s okay to wank one out provided it’s not to any pictures and videos of your ex-girlfriend.

This isn’t cart blanche to shoot more webs than spiderman. This is ONLY for emergencies. This is only when you absolutely have no other recourse. Otherwise, you should drop your phone and force yourself to sit outside or spend time with your friends before you cave.

Especially if you’re on a longer streak, you’ll feel terrible if you break. You’re probably already feeling shitty. There’s no reason to make it worse.

So sack up, and keep your hands to yourself.

Talk soon my friend,

Coach Jack

PS: Need help processing the breakup so you can get back to feeling like yourself again? Click here to learn how I can help you.

Coach Jack

I'm Coach Jack, the owner and founder of Men's Breakup. I help over 1 million men a year radically transform their lives for the better after being dumped. My breakup recovery method for men combines science, first-hand experience, and critical analysis to show you how to either get her back, or get over her by building a life of long-term, masculine happiness.

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